It's nice to be back at my desk. I have to admit, it's not easy to jump back into normal life and writing after being far away.
It was a great trip to Japan and Taiwan. But way too short. I need to go back to begin understanding where I was.
In Japan, Ayane traveled with me from Tokyo to Kyot...
"Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime."
- Mark Twain, The Innocents Abroad...
"You can't manage what you can't measure."
- Peter Drucker
Most guys I know want to:
- Build muscle
- Get leaner
- Or both
Yes, we want to look good.
But building muscle is about more than looks.
It's about reducing mortality risk and longevity. Especially after 50.
Building musc...
Friendships
John
Last week, my best friend from high school, John, visited me here on the beach for six days. He came from California, not far from where we grew up, to where I now live in Miami Beach. It was a fun visit.
John and I have been friends for over 50 years. We met when we were ...
I know loneliness well.
In 2010, my wife told me to move out of the house.
The family house was a happy one, for the most part. It was a busy place with our four kids, a loud and merry home, beautiful suburb of Boston, four seasons per year, two warm fireplaces, yellow lab dog, music, foo...
“It is one of the basic tenets of logotherapy that man’s main concern is not to gain pleasure or to avoid pain but rather to see meaning in his life.”
- Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
Does your life matter?
Another way I ask myself that question is: Does My Life Have Meaning and Pur...
Why do Men struggle?
At 64, I’ve been around the block a few times.
I have things I'm proud of, and plenty of things I’m embarrassed about and regret.
I have friends and family who suffer from depression, addiction, obesity, and other problems.
My brother died after 40 years of drugs and a...
Eulogy for Dad
Losing Dad was hard.
The last several months were a rough patch for me. Dad died and it took me a while to get back into the groove. I’m glad to be back at my desk. Dad’s probably wondering what the hell took me so long. He could be pretty macho at times.
Over the last thr...
What you are thinking affects your happiness.
To be happier, we need to actively manage our thoughts.
TLDR: We become our thoughts. Positive thoughts create positive feelings. Positive feelings make us happy. Two Circles of Influence. Flow. As a Man Thinketh. The Law of Attraction.
I put a lot ...
Tired when you wake up?
Hard time falling or staying asleep?
TLDR: 17 Tips for better sleep. Box Breathing Method. Two approaches to better sleep - Passive and Active.
I've heard several guys tell me the exact same thing: "I can't sleep without sleeping pills." Bad solution!
Recently, I ...
You become more valuable after 50
Four suggestions for a longer life:
- #1: Recognize your Crystallized Intelligence increases with age
- #2: Shift from a 3-stage life mindset to multi-stage mindset
- #3: Push out your Healthspan curve
- #4: Have an Action Plan for after 50
- Download the PDF
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Driven Purpose covers Pillars 1-3:
Pillar 1 – Finding Meaning – Journey Inward
Feeling like your life is filled with Meaning and Purpose promotes Well-Being. Being enthusiastically involved in something bigger than yourself, with passion, energy, focus, in a flow state, feeling a connection to a “...
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